New LBW, H maybe in MLC and now with OW - part 2

[meg24]

Had to talk to H on the phone at lunch time, to go over some financial information. He actually could have texted me the info, but he wanted to talk. He asked how I was doing, I told him the same. I know, I know, I should have told him I'm doing fine. But when talking on the phone, he can hear my voice. So I told him the truth. 180 for me, telling him my feeling.

I know that's one of the things he wants, one of his isssues with me, I don't tell him my feelings.

I was like Steve - I read, read, read. It was a little hard for me as most books were geared to spouse having an A OR there were strong religious overtones, but reading helped me the most. Plus it just kept me busy in general.

I have been reading, lots of books. I'm rereading Love Languages again. And I just bought to read on my Kindle app His Needs/Her needs. I'll start that tonight.

The A your H is having hasn't changed. What has changed is your both have admitted out-loud to each other. In my opinion the A is filling a need that the H has... one need. He still has you filling all the others. Right now he has the best of both worlds. I really recommend His Needs/Her Needs How to Affair Proof Your Marriage. It will help you understand why people end up having affairs and why most affairs do not last. That may be what helps you pull yourself through this and detach more.

You're right, the A hasn't changed. The A seems to be filling more than one need, but mostly the talking I think, H said she talks to him. Of course it's easy to talk to someone who you don't have daily life and responsibilities with. I talked a lot more early on too.

This just bites. I'm feeling a bit better though. Until bedtime.