And I meant the "perfect wife" thing not as in I believe she is... but because her behavior (her current behavior, at least) does not give me any leverage over her in terms of boundaries or "requirements." IOW, I can't say right now "W, you are really screwing this up, I need you to ______________".
you are doomed to fail your marriage if you do not stop this nonsense! of course you have leverage... she cheated on you... you have not worked out the points of reconciliation... you can still and you MUST lay out your terms... it is NOT TOO LATE! and you should have the C open this up... too dang bad if she is offended on your taking a step back and going over this now... you have to do this, hoosjim... you asked me what you could do to not go through what my H and i did--and that was another false start...
if you have that mentality, that you cannot now hold her feet to the fire because she seduced you and is now behaving, then you cannot be helped... you are weak... and that will be your doom... i just do not get you and other LBSs... you give us Wayward waaaaayyyy too much leeway... that will not save your marriage...
this is how far i got to reading this last post... i will read the rest after i send this comment...
