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I promise you, he intended it this way.

I will never understand intentionally hurting someone, especially your spouse, whether you are in love with them or not. It's interesting because this has reminded me of a time where I remembering researching why someone would do this...because my wife used to act similarly! I had almost forgotten about those times, they were not fun. But she would purposefully say hurtful things, some of them downright awful, and I was appalled. To the point where I seriously questioned why I would even want to be with her.

My conclusion was that she was trying her best to push me away and see if I would bail. She felt vulnerable and then lashed out. She would later apologize and say she knew how terrible it was. Never said she would cheat on me, however. If it helps, she does not act this way at all anymore. It's one of the ways she has grown a lot and our communication has drastically improved. We don't resort to dirty methods.

I do know I've read though that sometimes that passion, even though it's negative, can actually be better than apathy. Don't know if there's truth in that, but I know how much it hurts. I would bet it's more bark than bite, but still totally unacceptable.