Jim, I think the timeline is probably the most problematic. If this had happened 7 weeks from now (8 weeks since BD2), then I think the reaction here would be a tad different. But really, Easter was barely over a week since last contact between your W and OM. There are folks here still struggling weeks and months after their S's last contact with the OP.
We all just don't want to see you get hurt here. SO please understand these reactions are coming from a place of caring.
Agreed.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
