You and me both. One of the things that hurt the most was him telling me that he will sleep with whomever he wants should he want to. To me, this is wrong because we are still married. It makes me sick to my stomach.
Ouch, this is extremely hurtful. It is definitely wrong. And the military takes adultery a lot less lightly than the rest of the world these days, so he should be careful (not that this is your concern atm).
Originally Posted By: Olya
Whatever happens, I do not want to go through this process and emerge feeling dirty. I have the power to decide whether I want to soil myself and to compromise my integrity and I have decided that nothing and no one is worth it. I will always have myself and I will always have to live with myself and I do not intend to do anything that 10 years down the road will make me ashamed to look at myself in the mirror. To quote our former first lady, "when they go low, we go high." When I decide to find someone else, it will be on my terms and I will do it in a way that I will not be ashamed of.
Hold on tight to this. You are absolutely right that at the end of the day all you have for certain is yourself and you should be able to hold your head high and proud with your integrity intact. I always imagine talking to my hypothetical future children, later in life once they are grown, and strive to be the person I would want them to see. I want to be able to give them solid wisdom and advice and be able to back it up with examples from a well-lived life I am proud of. It's not worth compromising that for a moment of weakness, especially one brought on by someone else's transgressions.
M: 26 W: 26 M: 1.5 T: 3 No kids BD: 31 March 2018
W's affair began: 23 March 2018 Affair confirmed: 18 April 2018 Confrontation/claims she ended A: 14 May 2018 Ended in-house separation: July 2018
