1. Where did you fail in the relationship? How can you make improvements to yourself to be a stronger and more well rounded person emotionally, physically, and mentally? 2. What are you GAL activities? 3. What are some of your personal and professional goals?
Where did I fail in the relationship? I gained weight. I gave up on household chores when he did as well instead of working with him to fix it (to be fair, our house is messy/cluttered, not dirty/disgusting). I took us for granted, the same way he took me for granted.
I am glad to see that you are not taking all of the blame. A common mistake for spouses that are codependent. We knee jerk and take all the blame.
Please stop beating yourself up for the weight gain. Metabolisms naturally slow as we age. I find it funny that when you go to your 10, 15, 20, 25 year high school reunions, look at people. Remember those people that were the perfect proportions in high school? They have all become overweight. Remember the people that were on the skinny side? Now they are more properly proportioned.
When we take our vows: For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. Never have I heard "unless you become obese and then I keep my options open" added to the end.
I am sure your H is not the strapping young man he was when you married him either.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
