I did not intend to bring up the D only the financial issues concerning her still paying half the mortgage and me a fee for caring for the horses. However, I am sure that will lead to her discussing the D and moving forward.
Why do you feel the need to bring it up, has she quit paying? If she works D into the convo then that's fine. Your attitude should be that you are not going to help it along, but if she's pushing it forward and needs info from you then you will provide it. In other words you don't want D, but you're not going to stop her or put any roadblocks in her way.
Just a note on D, just because she's had a L draw something up, it doesn't mean anything. My ex did the same, then sat on the papers for months and months. Eventually I was the one that got tired of the limbo and pushed for the D, to this day I wonder if she ever would have had I not done it.
