Would you be okay hanging out with him on Saturdays and doing dinners if you knew he was in an affair - whether it was emotional and/or physical???
What if you found out after spending all this time with him that he was in an affair and that he treated you like a chump????
Damage is already done at BD and no matter how much you want to bury your head in the sand and think that your partner still has the same values as you - they don't.
As I said before, I never in a million years thought my W would have an EA with someone. But guess what - she did.
This forum is littered with people who have gone through this exact experience.
Does finding an A change your approach? Yes and no. No in terms of NC/going dark and not pursuing and all of that. Yes in the sense that you should stop hanging out with him and playing pretend couple.
I am sorry that this sounds rough, but you need to protect yourself and start looking beyond what you think you know about your H. Develop some healthy skepticism.
Also, you didn't answer any of my questions from before.
