He has been really honest about things since BD, and swears up and down that there is no A. I also don't think he has time for one... and I have chosen to trust him on this. Maybe that is naive. I think it's true though.
mybest,
Most left-behind spouses (LBS) are in their own special fog that prevents them from seeing clearly, and unfortunately, everyone generally ignores the elephant in the room. I'll be the barer of the bad news; your husband is lying out his @ss. He has plenty of time for an affair because his affair partner is someone at his workplace. Notice the time frame; he started his new job in September.
What value is there in knowing the truth? It doesn't change your approach to divorce busting, but it can put you in a place where you make better and more rational decisions going forward.
