He has been really honest about things since BD, and swears up and down that there is no A. I also don't think he has time for one... and I have chosen to trust him on this. Maybe that is naive. I think it's true though
I hope that it's true. I don't to make your paranoid about it or anything, but did you expect him to BD you? Did that shake your world? Was it out of character? If yes, then why do you think he isn't having an affair, or wants to pursue that? I am just saying that be mindful and attentive.
Never in a million years I thought my W would have had an EA, but she did. I thought our values were similar, but they diverged. So, just be mindful.
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I can handle the dinners and hanging out on Saturday, I think. Just keep following the rules. Should I never call or text though? Ever? That seems hard. Or is it just cutting back dramatically on them
If you can handle the dinners and hanging out, more power to you. But, if you realize you can't, then pull back.
My rules with my W about call/text is - only about kids stuff that is important, any business related to finances and house matters, and any emergencies. Outside that, I do not contact her at all. I do not ask her what she's upto, and I don't share what I am doing with my life.
Just start living your life. Here are a few questions for you to ponder:
1. Where did you fail in the relationship? How can you make improvements to yourself to be a stronger and more well rounded person emotionally, physically, and mentally? 2. What are you GAL activities? 3. What are some of your personal and professional goals?
