No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

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This will apply equally nicely to any scenario. Really.

Great suggestions, thank you for explaining so clearly. I can definitely be reasonable and have good manners , but it is a good note that I shouldn't mention anything about enjoying any time I spend with her. At first, I wasn't sure if I should be spending any time with her or if she was supposed to be feeling the effects of my absence. But it seems unavoidable living under the same roof and it sounds like small doses when she initiates and I respond appropriately are fine.

Ignore it.

This is exactly what I have done. Haven't said a word, even when she leaves the butts and even an empty box (?) all over the driveway. Thankfully, she would never smoke in the house. If it is some kind of test, I will not take the bait. Like Amoafwl said, it could just be her stress or response to everything but she knows darn well how I feel about it and I'm sure she's aware I notice.

You do, however, need to get a life. I know that it's hard where you're at. Believe me, I know. But you have options.

I know you are so right. It is hard because I am so used to spending a ton of time at home in the office working on my schoolwork. But, I am making a big effort to GAL. I actually just signed up for Meetup today! Great suggestion. I plan to do a lot more venturing out into the local community and if I drive to the nearest city, you are right there will definitely be plenty of English speakers. This seems to be where most of the meetup stuff is located as well. In my little rural town, I will practice my local language skills. I have considered getting a job teaching English since I got here and I think this is very doable. Now that I have more motivation to make the time, I will seriously consider it.

Omg, are you right about not talking to FRG about any problems. The military community can be infested with gossip and whispering, I choose my friends within it very wisely. I really appreciate your input, Olya!