I also really struggle with seeing how many relationships here don't end up in recon. But -- if that isn't possible, I need to at least know I am doing what I need to for me. While Sandi's rules and detachment seem to be a big challenge right now and even counterintuitive? I also KNOW it is the right thing because it both gives H what he says he needs (space, time for reflection) AND it does it in a way that respects myself. To me, those are crucial.
