Conway related midlife crisis in some ways to the Kubler Ross cycle. The labelled one phase 'replay' when the jerk wad in it is self obsessed, promiscuous, dirt bag to their families and long suffering spouse. Playing yo-yo with horrible behaviour and nice behaviour. Technically referred to as intermittent reward and manipulation. It's often a long phase in cheeseless tunnels, excusing wayward behaviour. I couldn't help it mi lord, it was my genes, childhood, spouse, hormones, etc that made me behave in a dirt bag way and dip my Nethers in OW. After all her knickers fell off, and I am a man open to offers or her offers were open. I was bored.
Beware the bored wayward, the mischief is endless.
For heavens sake - we all age, we all look in the mirror and see wrinkles, grey hair and a saggy chin. We don't all let our knickers drop or find a strangers hand down our pants. We get over it. No drama, no crisis. The LBS will also have 'issues' living with an unfaithful manipulative spouse might do that. You Think? We sort ourselves, we get IC. We pay the bills, we DB and comfort our children, we hurt too from childhood stuff.
At 40, 50, 60 and beyond waywards still blame their parents or FOO for behaviour? The G was a 59 year old man having a two year old temper tantrum or a teenage sulk. Saying "yes I have issues, but I like having them, accept it". Of course there are some very serious childhood abuse issues that require serious support, sexual abuse, abandonment, physical abuse and so on. That is a given, absolutely requires deep therapy and support. The results of the ACES test reveal the full extent of the damage for those in FOO with 4 or more ACES markers, largelying the end result is depression, poor health and financial failure. Damage can be epigenetic too, in the genes and expressed because of lifestyle or poor choices. There is a saying genes are the gun, environment fires the gun, I would also add lifestyle and personal choice put in the bullets in and the manipulator chooses an easy external target. Then excuses themselves and demands forgiveness.
FOO excuses nothing, at least 23% of the population have an ACES score which would indicate damage. That's one quarter of us have the gun ready to fire, we just don't load it and point it at others.
Beware of lip service from someone highly manipulative.
Manipulative peeps have been gaslighting all their lives, they are supremely skilled at it. As far as resolving 'issues' then they can easily disguise progress and in case you hadn't realised IC and MC make them better manipulators. They hone their skills, cut their teeth on it. They like manipulating. They enjoy it and the target is just a toy, like a new phone which can be discarded when a later model comes along.
I like the fact you are using truth darts on WH re OW and his A.
One day you may turn round and go "Nooooooooo, ewwwwww'.
V
Lingo:
MNG is Mr Nice Guy. FOO is family of origin issues. ACES is adverse childhood experiences score.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
