No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

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Another Update: I am still sort of flying by the seat of my pants here, trying to follow the rules, eliminate anxiety, and stay focused on myself over her.

Today, she texted me while she is at work and asked me "So have you had anymore thoughts about everything? You said you took a reflection day the other day." I was a little caught off guard by this and admittedly panicked a little.

Did my best to stay calm and be honest while not saying the "wrong thing". At first my answer was fairly brief because I tend be an over-sharer and I figured as long as it wasn't cold or TOO short, it was better than "Uh yes, I'm devastated and am begging you to reconsider etc". She pressed further saying she is just wondering my thoughts and if I could elaborate. Darn, no easy way out. Part of me wondered if this could be an opportunity but alas if it was I didn't know exactly how to seize it.

So, I went with this: "I will try to let you in a bit more. It matters to me deeply how unhappy you have been and I'm glad you decided to say something, even if it isn't easy to hear. I wish we had tried more active things like creating space and sleeping separately before it built up to an explosion (note: this was her word choice when she gave me "the talk"), but I'm glad we're doing it now even if it doesn't change anything. As for me personally, obviously the future is much less clear but I am at peace with that and working to prepare myself both logistically and mentally/emotionally."

How badly did I screw up?! What SHOULD I have said?

Her response: "I want to say how sorry I am for all of it."

Me: "I know that you have no bad intentions and you haven't been unfaithful or anything other than a supportive wife and I appreciate that."

She hasn't responded since.