No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

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I really appreciate your posts and questions, Amoafwl, because they are really pushing me to think deeply and I'll admit some of them sort of stopped me in my tracks for a bit and I didn't immediately have answers. I like this push out of my comfort zone.

I've been honing in on one of many of issues, and I haven't been able to shake the feeling that this one cannot be ignored. You asked what are my boundaries, which I touched on in the last post, but after thinking about it more, I'm not sure that I really even have boundaries. This is rather embarrassing to admit, both to myself and now to a world of strangers. I have become so accustomed to ignoring the need to establish boundaries for myself because I subconsciously think it will be better for establishing connection, closeness, etc. Perhaps contributing to preventing this very thing. I am paralyzed to really set a line for myself and I need to get over this hump.