How would your H describe the MR, if he were telling us about it? What would he tell us about living with you?

Why has he lost attraction for you?

Why was he working on the MR alone for a year and a half?

I hope you will be painfully honest.

The 37 rules were written as bullet points. If I can help you with certain ones, let me know and I'll try to explain them more.

You are reacting mostly out of fear. Your actions are not attractive to him. Surely, knowing you are pushing him out of the door will help you resist pressuring him to stay with a desperate wife. ((hugs))

I'm glad you found this board. The more you can tell us, the better we can see the bigger picture. Get ready for a lot of hard work.


P.S. Would weight gain happen to be one of the issues for his lack of attraction?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!