Quote: Where can you go this week to be in a good, safe place......and be around other people?
This week, until kids come back to home i will stay at motel, go to work, write more to the forum, and maybe reconnect some friend of FB. I will try to see some friends for coffee...
Sorry, I was not clear. I meant, where can you go to be with other people? A place to find nice people, and maybe make a new friend.
I regret you went back to live with your wife. I understand you want to be with your children, but you could always pick them up and go out with them for some hours, until you can fix the flat for them. However, it is your business and I do not know your finances. Living with your wife is hard, and makes you weaker. I hope the next three months come quickly. It breaks my heart that she manipulated you away from your family and friends. You have been punished a long time. It's time for the punishment to stop. You have another opportunity to enjoy life.
She and OM are not just friends. She is a cheater. She is not respectful to her H.
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So i went home, i was thinking how to handle the evening when she come home, how to behave how to act, yesterday we were civil and even pleasant, she talk about her day (a bit).....how i can start to be with this new behavior, without snooping ....I tough i can just play as nothing happened...(but i already play this 6-8 moths ago) and this not bring any big changes (she was wondering why i am so happy, and she steel do what she do - this was convo with her GF)
Do not worry yourself about how to act with your wife. You are dropping her. She is not an honorable woman. You don't care what she thinks about how you act. You don't have to stay in a room shut away. You are free to do what you want. Understand?
Please stop snooping. It does not stop her actions. It does not stop your pain. Can you delete her from her your Facebook? Don't read her messages to OM. That will be her life, and you will make a new life for you. Let go of reading her messages and snooping. You are getting stronger.
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I left out, found a place to stay till the kids come home (Thursday), i am not call to my WW, she did not call yet (she know why i am not there, but she do not know my planes). This days i will not go home, i will not talk to her, will not answer if she call.
To be honest, other reason i not want to stay at home this evening, is because i do not want to see her (to see how much, efforts she have done to her appearance for OM, dress, make up and so on.) i know this is my EGO, but with the time i will handle it. Also if i was staying at home, there was two possibilities. -Just staying there without, speaking -Start doing some thing on the PC and possibly be witness of her FB with OM -be involved in argument.
If you can stay away, that is good. But don't delay fixing the flat due to not enough finances. Understand?
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Thank you being with me. This days i will write more, because i already have PC with me. last 1 mount i have not PC at home and wrote by phone
Very good!
Take good care of yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
