D date is definitely set, I will have the decree in hand and will file with the clerk before we leave the courtroom. Not sure if it is immediately at that time but in my mind once I leave the courtroom on 4/12 it is a done deal.
For the most part my profile is ready to do. I need to add 3 more pictures and I should be good. The biggest dilemma I have had is whether or not to include my kids and me as one of the pictures. I have read a lot on the subject and asked around as well. I think it comes down to personal preference. When I first thought about my initial stance was I would not include my kids. Over time though I have started to warm up to it simply because they are a large part of my life and anyone I meet in the future is obviously going to need to be onboard with it as I will be assuming she has kids as well.
I am also a little nervous about how the dynamic will change between my W and I when start dating as well. Only because I don't want a good co-parenting relationship to go south when a new person is introduced. I have friends that had a very amicable D go in the toilet once they started dating. IMO my W asks my opinion (she just sent me an email asking me who her renters insurance was through) and relies on me way too much for someone who is Ding me. Not sure how she is going to react.
So I guess I don't know when I will put myself out there again but I think it will happen some time before summer starts.
Nice. sounds like you have a good plan in place - mentally and emotionally.
Just my 2 cents - I really limit my kids photos online just to not have them overexposed at such a young age. They can decide their online footprint when they're older and I don't want their photos and business to be all over the internet and social media.
I know being a dad is an important part of your life and you'd want that to be known in your online profile - why don't you write something nice about being a dad and your girls in the profile rather than add a pic of them for now.
This way you get to still show that being a parent is a key part of your identity and keep the girls pics offline. Just a thought!!!
I wish I could come and see you and we could go get a brew on the 12th. I am excited for you
Yeah, I am fine. I feel calm and in control. At times my mind still wonders to the past or thinks about what could have been but those thoughts are getting less and less.
We have never been real sticklers on posting the girls pictures on the various different social media sights. I assume most people (especially women) do some online research to see what else they can find out about a guy before agreeing to a date and if they do I am sure pictures of my daughters will be available. The site I am going to use also has an option to link up your Instagram account as well so those types of pictures would be available any way. The problem is I have a really great picture of me and the girls that I know the ladies will love
I am excited as well, ready for the next phase. Life is too short and it's time to get back into the game. I am sure I will have a few cocktails on 4/12 to celebrate but that would be cool!
I am a big fan of Bourbon so pick your favorite, pour one for yourself and then another for J9
Maybe after it is over with on 4/12 I'll ask my EW if she wants to go out and celebrate....
I have the kids that week so unfortunately I won't be able to go too crazy. However if I active my online profile on 4/13 I can get some dates set up for the week of 4/15.....hmmm
I know being a dad is an important part of your life and you'd want that to be known in your online profile - why don't you write something nice about being a dad and your girls in the profile rather than add a pic of them for now. )
I think like you said, it comes down to personal preference, but I'd leave the pics of you and the girls off your profile.
Glad you seem to be in a really great place, and I'll raise one to you on the 12th, too
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
hat article doesn't mention it but another factor is women in their 40's and 50's that find themselves in the dating pool seem to be really jaded. Maybe it's because they've been burned in previous relationships, but their walls are high and their skepticism runs deep.
I find this so sad. I know that if H and I end up divorced, he would end up marrying someone 10 years younger than me and probably have more kids. I think he'd have to marry that much younger honestly bc any woman my age would see through him in an instant. Women in their 40s have been through enough to know what they do and don't want. I also read a post here, I can't remember who it was that set their age limit on their dating profile to 35. It's a very sad day to realize that at 43, I wouldn't even come up in that data set. Ugh.
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
