lost and desperate think she has closed Part 2

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Let go of this OM issue. The problem isn't him it's your WW. When you talk about him you give him more validity, you make yourself look weak. Do only the things that make you look strong.

Most Waywards think that the other person is meant for them and that all their problems will be fixed by moving on. But when reality sets in the LBS is strong and made all the changes that the wayward wanted. They move on to this new person to start over and find out that the other person isn't perfect and nobody is perfect including themselves.

I have not said anything to her about him since the last time she claimed that he was out of the picture and the A was over. I also realize that she has a fantasy about him from when they were in high school.

Like AS says you have to push the AP and the WW closer together, so the WW have to live outside the fantasy and deal with real life issues without the LBS in the picture.(a scary thought right). The only thing that can break a fantasy is reality. You pulling away is a wake up call and a part of reality. The person that had their back far so long is pulling away and this new person has to pick up all that slack

The thing about this OM is her family does not care for him at all so she is still in this secret relationship which as we know keeps excitement at a high level. The OM lives in a different town also, so they only meet over weekends for now.