I know it's hard to believe, but there ARE good aspects to this:
She's no longer with the original OM - whatever this new guy's deal is, he's not responsible for your marriage breaking down. I believe it's easier to live with the ex being with someone who was not involved in your marriage - I know it's way easier for me.
Two - you wouldn't want her back yet as she's still not close to being well - so thankfully she's found some other guy to help keep her afloat and she's not on the street.
Third - this guy may be "alcoholic loser" per the neighbor but you can hope that maybe he's a kind alcoholic loser.
