No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

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I know she feels tremendous guilt because if we split up and I have to move back home somehow, all my plans for career (I am currently in a masters program) have to be changed to get a job quickly and support myself and we would have to figure out how to pay for my stuff to be moved including my car etc. A huge mess that honestly works against me because I think it makes her feel even more trapped and resentful.

So what are you doing about all of this? Have you looked into your options?

What is my next move, IS there any hope?

You seem very focused on her. What are you doing for you? GAL? Also, have you read DR - I couldnt really tell from your post.

Last time, I implemented all the rules of giving space and not putting any pressure and I thought it worked. But rather than having an explicit talk about how we were going to "try again" it just sort of happened and of course I didn't complain.
I was probably too quick to fall back into routine once I thought I was in the safe zone.

You say 'last time' like the crisis ended. I dont think it ever has. You say you 'fell back into a routine'. Does that mean your original changes werent genuine? How are you different today than you were at the start?

When the rule says you don't talk about the relationship, when is it okay to do so?

I say when she brings it up.

Does the fact there is no A increase or decrease my chances?

Yes

Any advice or sharing is greatly appreciated and thanks for reading, sorry it was so long.

Keep posting!