Oh she is definitely in an MLC, it really doesn't get any clearer than this, as she is displaying literally ALL the "symptoms" and telltale signs of an MLC with no exception at all.
It may have been triggered by this resentful dynamic, but probably also by the death of her father and this very hard time we had to go through as a couple due to the earlier mentioned business liquidation.
As for your question, it was definitely number 3! It was always the idea that once i felt "safe" enough to be able to trust her again we'd resume an active sex life (preferably a better, healthier one than before, where i'd make a great effort to contribute to that)
In the meantime, things were going decent i THOUGHT for a couple weeks now... but then yesterday she completely broke down again in the sense that she told me this really isn't gonna work out and that she tried but in the end she cannot see herself living with me for another 40 years. She said she is now in the middle point in her life and that she now wants to start over with someone else who gives her excitement and makes her feel "alive" again, she craves FREEDOM, spontaneity, and excitement which i cannot give her i guess. She also said that if we didn't own the house together and that if the kid wasn't there, she'd be gone already.
So yeah... basically what happened was i slowly built my trust up towards her over the last weeks and i thought things were going well actually, only to be completely CRUSHED again just yesterday.
Thing is after telling me all this of course... she also told me that she loves me and that she is confused and that she doesn't know what she wants.
After i told her that "if that is truly how you feel, then i really don't want to stay with you anymore, i deserve someone who appreciates me for who i am and for what i do. I deserve to be loved" she kinda backed up a little and said that i should give her a couple more weeks to think it over and that we shouldn't rush things now and that i probably shouldn't take everything 100% serious when she is in state of mind like that.
WTF! So yeah, you get my dilemma here, she is totally lost, totally confused emotionally. She doesn't want what she has, she wants something else, something more, but then when it's looking like she is losing it for good, she paddles back and can't go through with it.
Drives a guy crazy. I feel like I need to make a stand here and give HER a sort of ultimatum, or at least a CHOICE.
She either takes me as i am and loves me, (note that of COURSE i am willing to make changes and become a better husband during this) and by "as i am" i mean the CORE of my being.
Or she makes up her d@mn mind and tell me it's OVER for good so i can move on with my life.
Does that sound like a good idea here? I feel like i kinda should do that but it may the be the exact thing that will drive her away for good? Just not sure how long i can this up emotionally before breaking down completely...
