Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

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Hi Sandi.
I am really feel dispersed, and need some support from you.
Last week I am calm do not call,ask and what ever pursuing.
It was a situation and I saw that OM write to her, as well as sow her for coffee during hair cut. She did not do any moves to stop contact even increase her pursuing time him, to see him for lunch dinner, and so on.
She try several times to involved me in R talks. I did my best to shut the talks as fast as possible.
I told her that I will not go to invest in new flat, and I will go to make our other flat ready for leaving (I told her I will move there, when it is ready, because there is not any other way , to resolve the situation). She do not do nothing about stop contact with OM - there still not relationship between them, but she is in very high limerance to him.

After I shut hurt down about, when she told me if she can do anything about it, I told her that she know what should be done, she told me she will not agree with any ultimatum, I respond the convo is over. She continuous to nagging and ask why I behave like this, I told her to stop and do not discuss the new flat end more.

Since then 2 days ago we are just civil. She is a bit happy.
Today I found out that she is going to meet him to eat cake as a date. And pursuing very hard for next dates von diners and lunches. It is like when I shut her down there is not anymore obstacles to increase the contact with OM.


So Sandy I have 3 months befoure the other flat to be ready. And I will need to leave in her.

Any advice how to behave with her.

She suspect that I will see about her dating on FB

I am lost and afraid. But today I will start real 180.
She will see my 180 as free ticket to develop R with OM further more. I AM TRYING to fighting with the panice in my self.

Please responding to support me.