I need some guidance

[Ste7e]

Ok reread abunch of DR over the last few days and am figuring it out better.
Yesterday was actually really good W came over about 6 hours before I was expecting her. I was luckily in a really good mood and we had a pretty fun conversation about her night before laughing etc.
I also caught the point where the conversation could have started to lag and excused myself to mow the lawn. Right when I was finishing she was leaving so things ended on a good note.
Im starting to understand detachment better...I just need to detach from my feelings of desire not detach from the person.
She came over today and is currently at the house and as soon as she arrived I said I had to go out and was running late. I will monitor if my absense has any effect? Really trying to GAL here joined meet up and signed up for some stuff etc.

Also made a first pass at a 180 list and put down 20 things...what I noticed was that most of the items were Action oriented items which are things I can tangibly monitor as either I am doing them or not...but some things were Emotion oriented items like stop being needy or stop being controlling. Not sure exactly how to monitor these?