Oh boy Irish - what an unlucky turn of events for you and for your GF. I can understand how you must both feel about that! Ugh...

That's interesting about OM1 now being replaced with OM2 - gosh! Interesting how so many of these situations start out as 'soulmates' only to have fragile foundations and not survive life's ups and downs.

Should you update your girls? I'm not sure about that one. It may be relevant information to them as OM1 being out of the picture was important for them. But how they may feel about OM2 being in the picture is another matter. I guess another aspect is how you would feel if you didn't tell them and they found out and also found out that you knew?

If you do tell them, might there be a risk that they would contact her and the link back to your GF would be revealed? I'm erring on the side of updating them. But clearly she doesn't sound to be in a place where she has much to offer - ie: she has just chosen to partner up with another guy who has significant problems in order that they can fix themselves together? Really?

I came across a nice quote recently and I use it as my guiding light if I have something difficult to discuss. Is it necessary, truthful and kind?

I hope this helps a little anyway Irish and good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Happy Easter to you and your family smile


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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus