Olya, time is a big part of this. If you are doing the LRT to only get attention you are doing it wrong.

Just like last time when drastic changes were agreed to on the fly, real lasting change is going to take time.

Read about detachment.
Read about GAL

I know you feel you have a life but you really need to prepare yourself to be apart. No this doesn't mean it is inevitable, but it also let's it sink into his head and heart.

Fast change is not real change.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.