It´s my week again at the apartment and W is with the kids. I´ve tried to do some thinking and make a plan how to move forward.
At the moment our status is like this: -We both spend every other week with kids, but do not share nesting apartment anymore. I´have the apartment and W is living at her mother´s flat but is looking apartment as well -Affair is not going on and there is no contact to OM, although I´m aware everything can happen underground -We still attend very good MC once a week, and we both are committed to it without any expectations of end result -My GAL is going quite well, I see my friends quite much, live a healthy lifestyle (my W have noticed I´ve gained muscles), and I have started to expand my social network (joined Toastmasters and one support group for guys) -I am willing to work things out with W, but if there is no progress until midsummer, I will drop rope and move forward. I may leave door open to wife, but will prioritize my healing and keep eyes open for opportunities life brings ahead -My net income is double compared to my W, and at the moment I cover all the living costs/kids needs until the point we have as much to spend. I have decided to continue this until I drop the rope or affair starts again -We have seen a bit more with W, done some training together and even watched some TV close together. We also have one date-weekend planned in next month, where we agreed that she plans first evening activities and I plan the second.
My biggest concern at them moment is that what is the best level of revealing my feelings and talking about R. As I have said, I don´t have any expectations, but since she have said (as I written in previous post) that she would need to learn new way of being with me, I initiated the date with her and proposed that both of us just comes in as we are - no learned behavior patterns if possible (hardly I guess). I have not said ILY or anything like that, but due to my neglecting history, I have shared my thoughts and feelings more than some might suggest, in other words I have been quite open to just try that out before dropping the rope. Any comments - should I talk R at our situation?
