sorry you are here, I'm sure it's quite painful and stressful.
I'm not sure how you are DBIng, b/c you say it's not working, but what is it that you are doing differently than before the A?
What were you like when she fell in love with you?
As for the HANDGUN
that would freak me out big time. You are angry, you bought a gun. Those are facts.
A man in my Divorcecare group last year stabbed his wife and shot himself in the head.
Left 2 orphan kids. He snapped. We will never know what was said in the 90 seconds of his returning the kids after an outing.
So for me, it's a big alarm going off. DING DING DING
You are spinning. You are obsessing and we all have been there. It's like nothing else gets your attention. Try to be present for your kids and not gearing up for a war, so much.
What are your GAL activities (and btw, you can tell her SOME of them b/c you are having FUN), and then be a bit mysterious about the rest.
Right now i feel like you are doing a tit for tat game and really really wanting to "win/be right" but that's not the way to approach this. Take in and process what the DB books say.
Do you want to be "right" or do you want to be happy?
Also, I do NOT condone your wife having an A. I DO NOT!
but your post and story sounds to me like you have some issues of your own to work on.
What are your 180s?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
