I need some guidance

[joejoe1]

180s are for you and not your W. But you are using what your W has told as a starting point and goal post.

They are called 180s because will do the exact opposite of what your W said she didn't like.

Read cadet post there is A lot of jewels in his post.

For me a few 180s were.

Helping out more with our kids unprompted. My W complained that I was an absent father.

My W complained I didn't help her around the house. I started helping out around the house unprompted.

My W said I was very selfish. I worked on caring for others before myself.

I also learned my W love languages(LL), I studied exactly what it meant to love in her languages.

I hope this help. My 180s will be different from yours. I was also a true A hole to my W. I 180 that as well.