So I'm not sure what to do today. W woke up sick. I had planned to leave the kids with her and head out for a day of fishing, but she looks pretty bad and I don't want to leave the kids with her when she is in no place to run after two young children. Normally I'd take care of the kids and make some homemade soup to help her feel better, but I'm not sure that's the right thing to do.
Do I leave her with the kids while I GAL? Do I take care of the kids, but not make soup for her because she'd feel pressure? I'm just not sure anymore. I am usually decisive and go with what I think is right, but she typically perceives that as NGS, so I'm backing off.
I agree with Steve, something like this is not a "pursuit" situation because you're just trying to help her out because she's sick. Offer to help her and make some soup, if she says no then offer to take the kids with you fishing (or take them with you somewhere else if they don't fish).
A lot of people think "detach" means that in a situation like this, you should just go fishing and leave her there with the kids to "suffer the consequence of her actions". Seriously though, what do they think their WAS is going to think about them? She will think they are a selfish tool and she is even more right to leave him! That is NOT detachment. That's just being rude and self-centered.
I assume your end goal is recon. When faced with situations like this ask yourself if your response gets you closer to your goal, or farther away.
