I need some guidance

[Ste7e]

Learn quickly to BACKOFF, shut up walk away when you want to speak out.
Ok this is my mantra today.

3 questions

I have a day of rest as W wont be back til tomorrow afternoon to deal with pet.
Not sure if I should be here while she is here? I do have tons of work to do at the house, and wonder if my ability to be present but completely detached wil help against my backsliding yesterday?

Also curious if conversation yeaterday is actually a good thing because it eatabliahed a breaking point where I can start acting “as if” and in her eyes my actions can now be seen as not just to get her back?

Can acting “as if” be seen as a 180? Can this be a smallest consistant action?