My sitch is still very fresh and i know patience is key but i was reading up on Retrouvaille and how couples would go even if one was unwilling, this seemed to have helped many in heading to reconciliation. Is this something i could/should bring up as a final attempt? Should i hold off and wait some time to see where this goes? What if she drops D-bomb, how should i react to that??? Thanks guys n gals
She has to be willing to go. They will call both spouses and ask them a few questions. Neither can be dating anyone else and both have to indicate interest in working on the M. After BD my ex surprised me by telling me she thought we should try Retro. We did end up going, and it is a really fantastic program that I can't recommend enough to people that are piecing. But when a spouse is two feet out the door it's not going to turn them around. There was one coach couple in our group that even said they had gone too soon the first time, it was a WAH and his W basically forced him to go and it did no good. Later when he hit rock bottom and decided he was willing to work on things they went again and that was the turning point for their M. But the bottom line, both spouses have to be committed to working on it.
