Hi all, Been reading through manythreads before posting andhavefound several people with similar situations. Lots of great advice from members andthe staff, so I’m hopeful. So, here’s our story. Been married 18+ years. Rocky at times but Also periods of a loving caring relationship. Over the pat 10 years i had been traveling quite a bit dor work throughout the country. Not a good situation for a relationship to prosper and we began drifting apart. Communication began to dwindle to a point where we would just kind of talk to each other about family matters, like finances, kids etc. Affection and intimacy was nearly non existant. Fast forward to last year, July/Oct time frame and I decided to seperate as we both seemed miserable with the current situation and leaving seemedto be the best option. We communicated with each other during this time apart but it was only relating to kids and how to proceed with the divorce. During this time by myself I realized that i had made a terrible mistake and began to think of ways to reconcile. Finally I just decided to tell her staight away that I wanted try to work things out. W was skeptical at first but eventually decided to move forward with an attempt to “patch things up. I was elated. However, the main problem that I’m having now is I know she was actively searching on a few online dating sites during our several apart apart. I truly believe she was dating during this time as I saw her profile on a local dating site. She denies it and has been rather evasive whenI’ve asked her about it. Because of that, I’m not completely sure if she has stopped surfing those sites since we’ve been trying to patch things up. This has lead to me feeling very much insecure about the future of our relationship. Is this something I should just let go because it was done during our separation?
