not to quibble, truly. I'm sure you 've researched this but since I'm 55 or over, I can remarry and not lose my half of x's pensions.
Nor should i, considering how much I schlepped and gave up to move for him at least 9 times, 12 if you count moves under 100 miles.
So if you remain married till she's 55...she'd lose nothing by remarriage
OR if she leaves sooner, and does not remarry, she loses nothing. I am not saying this is purely transactional for her.
But I noticed in my divorcecare class, in which most of us are processing broken hearts,
there are a FEW women who seem to come just to gauge the pros and cons of staying married - and it's not about their emotional fears or needs.
They are looking to see if the grass is greener AND OR to figure out the best timing for them to make their move and leave.
it creeps me out, frankly.
OTOH, anyone considering a divorce would be nuts not to do the math of it.
All I'm saying is Just keep your eye on the finances and protect yourself.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
