That REALLY escalated fast. (Hoosjim's 14th)

[hoosjim]

WWs don't like to give things up. I think you said you're a lawyer. I'm guessing she doesn't make nearly as much money as you do. I bet you have a nice house. Drive nice cars. You can afford gym memberships. She'd be walking away from a sitch that most women would kill for.

I'm a lawyer, yes. But a lawyer who works for the govt. And who has major medical bills. And who has two kids in college (almost) And who lives in a major metro area that is VERY expensive, and who crashed his finances during the dotcom crash and thus got a VERY late start on the career savings front... So we are not really doing all that hot, certainly not in comparison to the average demographic around here.

I can afford the gym membership, and the occasional vacation (the Cancun thing was going to be a splurge), but, while i do drive a BMW, it is 13 years old with 130,000 miles on it. And a cracked windshield where my Tourettic son kicked it from the inside during a fit W does drive a fairly nice car but nothing extravagant. First World problems, i know, but, at least by the metric in our town, we are not "affluent".

Nonetheless, i don't doubt you are right about the dynamic. OM is a tow truck driver, in the same metro area, so living with/off him would definitely be a step down.

OTOH she would be entitled to a share of my federal pension as long as she didn't marry the clown... Which is why if things go sideways i have vowed to myself to either a) fight it till there is nothing left to give to her or b) quit before my retirement vests and become a beach bum. No way in hell i'd ever let that SOB realize the benefit of anything i've made.