Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 12, D on hold

[PsySara]

I've asked WH to move out in the past and he made it clear he would not move out until the divorce was final. In the meantime I've been working some extra shifts on the weekend to pay off some debt. Once I am completely on my own I will be investing in some stocks as well as being more aggressive about getting my retirement/savings squared away.

Today was the day that it goes to default, I emailed my lawyer last night so she would file as soon as the deadline hit. I also managed my financial affidavit yesterday and requested that our taxes be filed married but separate. We owe a sizable debt this year to the IRS and my part is only 1/3rd. WH is so weird, he is so savvy about investments but doesn't seem to get tax law. He actually thought we would get a return. I already knew our combined income mixed with his capital gains would make us owe. WH freaked out when he realized how much he owed. His financial decisions (he owns 6 motorcycles, 2 cars to just himself) have been disastrous these last 2 years. Meanwhile I have bought some nice things but mostly have aggressively been paying off my student loans from medical school.

Things are tense, we barely speak, keep it to household things as well as kids but he will look at anywhere but me. I can't remember the last time he made eye contact to talk to me. It's fairly clear he is back inside his own head and playing the victim. He's off this week with the kids during their spring break. I came home to a wrecked house, the kids still in their jammies and found out they only ate pancakes and ice cream. DD7 said they basically stayed indoors and played on ipads. DS2 was still down for a nap at 5 pm when I walked in the door. I was pissed. Now he will be up half the night and I will have to manage the dinner/bathtime routine/etc., while he "goes to work to sign some paperwork." I can't wait to no longer be married to this manbaby.