Thanks, the big day is Sunday night, no idea how long she plans to stay home, the vague idea is around a month. This is the most we would have spent together in one year. I am working very hard not to allow myself to fall into any old pattern, to not look at her in any way through the lens of our past, and to maintain the "marathon" state of mind.
I know the drill, but its a bit of daily reminders, being mindful and catching myself from falling in. I haven't decided yet how I will respond if she acts like things are "normal," whether I will rebuff or play along. This is not a strategic issue, it is more about what feels right for where I am right now. Honestly right now I could not see myself opening up to her in any meaningful way.
I may send up flair for help or request 2x4's, hope you all are warming up your swinging arms!
