Hello and welcome! Honestly she doesn't sound MLC to me, just sounds done. Sounds like you two have been through a lot of stress with deaths in the family, your depression and weight gain, sick pet, difficult work for her, no work for you, etc. etc. You said you read DR so I assume you're familiar with the basics of DB'ing. That's your roadmap back. Let her go. Give her time and space. Work on yourself. Get in shape, lose that weight, revamp your wardrobe, find a job. In short, make yourself attractive again. Don't talk about the M, ever! If she brings it up then listen and validate (read Cadet's threads for more on validation). Good luck!
