That REALLY escalated fast. (Hoosjim's 14th)

[hoosjim]

My two cents... The bug showed you very little that is useful... What you described is a grown woman acting like a teenager who got caught doing something wrong and so is now crying because she can't go to the biggest party of the year... If my H had begged my hotel room during the three days I was kicked out of the house, he would have heard me crying non-stop too...

Idunno. It confirmed she believes im gone. (and i will continue to rebuff any overtures for "joint"--My MC, who has stated she doesnt want us in joint right now, is actually getting frustrated with me because i told her to back off on the cross sharing of info.) And it confirms she at least actually believes she has to do some work... and that she's doing it even though she believes i'm gone. Dont know how many times she said "he's gone, he's gone... no coming back from this". I think it also confirms she's had her "Come to Jesus moment"... as do some things in the letter that i will get to later. Not that that excuses here, or lets her off the hook.

But it does indicate, to me, that she is moving in the right direction. She has the right help around her now, too... if she can just shed bff. I'm not going to go over and jump her bones (But holy CRAP some part of me last night desperately wanted to ), but i am willing to allow that the possibility exists for her to do the right thing, here.

Don't know what that does for me. As you have said about your own sitch: now is now and what happens a week or two weeks from now may be something different... if her fickle, WW feelings change. I really think IC can help her with this, though. We'll see.