My two cents... The bug showed you very little that is useful... What you described is a grown woman acting like a teenager who got caught doing something wrong and so is now crying because she can't go to the biggest party of the year... If my H had begged my hotel room during the three days I was kicked out of the house, he would have heard me crying non-stop too...
She sounds so scripted... Sure to say the right things... Saying that she only saw OM for one minute... First of all, who talks like that? Someone who wants to make sure, in case you or someone else happens to be listening hears her script... I am sorry, but I don't believe her story of seeing him that one time... And if you had not caught her, I highly doubt she would have jumped your body in the shower... You want to know when she felt like jumping your body? When you walked away from her and got into the Uber... That is when she found you most attractive...
After the suicide episode (the three days) and my H let me back in the house, soon after that we had the most amazing sex over the next couple of days... Our pastor warned us that it was a honeymoon phase. He was right. Nothing had really changed... My heart had still not been transformed, and neither has your wife's..
