I was not raised in a religious family, and my personal exposure has been limited to a few years at a time during different stages of my life.
Seems like this might be a bigger issue between you and this woman than race. Sounds like you're not very religious, and she cares about finding a church home that's welcoming to all races.
Btw, beware of conflating race and culture or socioeconomic class. The black men I dated had very similar middle class backgrounds to my own, except for one who came from a more affluent background.
In fact, in one way I have more in common with black men than white men: discrimination. I grew up in an era where it was assumed I was less capable, less intelligent, simply because I was a woman. (I remember one of my medical school classmates complaining about women being admitted with "lesser" qualifications; he shut up when he learned my admission testing scores were higher than his). While I don't presume to claim that the discrimination I experienced as a white woman is anything like what people of color experience- obviously they have it way worse - but I do relate.
