But you folks mostly don't see this. All you see of me is the forays I make onto these forums in search of insight into my WW, or into saving my marriage in general. Is that all I am about. Abso-effing-lutely not. But it is mostly why I am here. I see this site literally as "Divorce Busting", that is, preventing my divorce and saving my marriage. It is primarily and recently pretty much exclusively why I am here... with a strong nod and a big "thank you" to the community and to MWD for starting me down the path of "taking care of me."
Hoosjim
you are correct we can only respond to what you post, So some of the advice I give will be useless if you are not telling the whole story. As i see it there are only two certain things you can control and that is yourself, and whether or not you want out of the marriage. in my opinion everything else is out of your control.
Sandi, Arista, and a couple of others give advice about WW's. Speaking for me only since i am a man, and I am guilty of it, i read alot of their posts to gain an understanding of the WW's. Which I now see was wrong, because myself I am a fixer and my mindset was how can i fix this WW's thoughts. What i am doing and what i should of done from the beginning was not to try to understand it or make sense of it, but to use it as a map of what to expect to see. They have to fix themselves, and to fix themselves they need to first realize they have a problem. When you stop hearing from your wife, that is when i would say she has made the realization that she has a problem, because she will no longer be focused on you or the marriage but on herself. This is when you will need to give her space to find herself and let her fix her issues.
She may or may not be like this, but once she realizes she can not manipulate you anymore, i wouldnt be surprised if you see her start to blame you or the kids before she has hit rock bottom, or move onto another AP.
M:43 W:33 M:10 T:11 D:6 BD 8/12/17 Divorce Final 1/23/2019
