Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

I realize this "is a marathon, not a sprint" but it's hard to stay motivated when things seem to be getting worse. I'm trying to apply Sandie's rules to a T now, and I'm seeing little cracks here and there - where she asks for a little bit of support or temp checks me, but they're still few and far between.

I'm afraid her moving out is just a dress rehearsal divorce.

Today, I also had a reminder of how self-centered she can be with all this.
We had an issue with one of our dogs, (a rescue, who is extremely affectionate, but has some aggression issues). I spoke to her about it after an one of her medical/self-care appointments. We agreed on a course of action, then I circled back to discuss how shaken I was by this.

I was rather roughly told that she had "just relaxed, and needed to stay relaxed, and didn't want to rehash this with me".

I realize from a strict DB perspective I shouldn't have circled back, and that I should have steered to more pleasant topics, then ended the conversation first.
That said, being upset about a serious issue with one of our furry children isn't unreasonable. Her response makes it clear how little regard she has for being supportive of me does make me question what exactly I'm trying to save.