right now, i would not give any benefit of the doubt... but i would not dismiss it either... just try to remain neutral... wait and SEE...
Artista: This is exactly where i am. And also where the IC/MC is. She believes W is finally "getting it", is devastated, but concurs that what she did was unbelievably selfish and stupid (though not, apparently, all the unusual for women coming off an affair). The way MC/IC put it was that W is starting to realize that her role in any reconcilliation, if there is to be one, is to get her head straight and to have an attitude of "sacrifice" for me and the MR NO MATTER WHAT that sacrifice is. For me, if I am to be able to come back, i will have to reach a place of trust NO MATTER WHAT, and we would have to decide what boundaries would need to be in place to enable that. She also said no MC for a while, only IC. W apparently drove all the way down to see her yesterday in person (3 hours) rather than go to work.
doodler: Dude, really? I'm on the spot here. Will fill in more later but, no, I'm not delusional. Nor am i "bought back in", either.
25yrsMLC: I very much appreciated your post. Your perspective is helpful, and i really appreciate that you made allowance for my... "stance"... for lack of a better word while still strongly voicing your own opinion.
I appreciate everyones' warnings, and I am "Being careful." I still don't know where i am going with this yet, though i know i need something from her. I am not going to make the first move.
More later.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
