That escalated quickly; WW's A RESUMES(hoosjim#13)

[hoosjim]

She is genuine. She has work to do and I am not going to let her back in right now. But she is genuine. Had a long talk with the mutual friend whom I trust very much. One who knew more than I thought she knew about what was going on. There's an overlay of fear of the OM, who apparently has been threatening at times. There are other things. Wife definitely screwed up. Is she still needs to do some things to get her head completely straight , but I am now convinced that she is at least pointed in the right direction. That she is dreadfully sorry for what she has done. But, yes, more work. I am not lowering my guard yet. Will update more later, but I have an individual counseling session now.



On my way home now so dictating another snippet. This mutual friend was herself a victim of infidelity and managed to reconcile her marriage. She played tough with her husband and eventually they got back together. That was 8 years ago. They're still together and have a great marriage. She is also very Christian and very kind, and they no BS kind of person would not be an enabler for my wife. She's one of the friends that I wish my wife would gravitate closer to as opposed to BFF. she said she didn't tell my wife she would be talking to me and I believe her. She also showed me screenshots of texts that my wife had shared with her. Text from om incline he might tell our kids, or come by her office. My wife has a history, prior to our relationship, of being in abusive relationships, and being one of those women who doesn't tell anyone about it out of fear. There was a lot of other stuff too. Enough to make me think that wife is close to Rock Bottom. We are still too close to Saturday to know for sure, and, as I said, she's still very clearly screwed up, and was willing to do things that she shouldn't have been had her head been in the right place. I want to hear what the counselor has to say because I have not talked to the counselor since the counselor talk to my wife. I have not made any decisions yet, and did not tip my hand who absolutely concurred with me that wife screwed up. I have not made any decisions yet, and I'm still far from taking her back. But I am starting to believe that she may be closer to being in the right place than previously thought. More later.