Have been reading Hoosjim’s post, but thought I’d add this here rather than his thread. Especially reading the advice from Artista and her experience, it reminds me of the story “The boy who cried wolf”.
Reading these, I have seen so much during my marriage where my W has used these “tactics” to get what she wants and not deal with her issues. I have even had the suicide threat in the past after I was ready to leave, when I had finally had enough and felt so done. W was in the kitchen and told me she would slit her wrist...
I caved, yet again, to that cry of wolf just as I have so many times before. I still see it now manifesting in different forms. I have given up running to help now though. As much I as I want to believe her, it’s a pattern that has been there too often that would need to change.
Going back to OM, (and others in her community) I believe they don’t see that pattern yet and are the villagers running to help while I’m the bad villager not responding to the cries anymore. Or maybe I’m just the wolf....
