Still treading water

[Gordie]

Wow. That was unexpected. And your feelings that you’re not more excited? I get that. I feel the same. We’re hurt and have been whipsawed. And you are guarded and cautious, as you should be. Be patient. See how things play out.

Actions speak louder than words. Have her actions changed? Are these changes for real? And long lasting? At this stage, it’s way too early to tell.

And how should you act now? I think the advice I am getting is you’ve got to keep focusing on you. I suspect you are going to start thinking and feeling some new things. Process those, don’t stuff them.

And with respect to her, keep expectations low and go very, very slowly. Be patient. If she can change her mind this quickly in one direction, she can do the opposite as well.