Jim, really sorry you're going through this. The bottom line is your W is a lying cheater. You have that info laid out before you in stark black-and-white, there is nothing at all vague or unclear about it. I've got to say I fully support the Doodler 2 step plan outlined above. Do that and your W may hit rock bottom and finally come to you with a humble spirit. Right now she's not humble at all, she's a child who is pitching a crying jag of a fit because she's not getting her way. She's trying to manipulate you back into the status quo. Don't do it.
^^^THIS^^^^
I'm sorry that I am not confused by your wife's behavior.
My guy says she's not going to be or remain faithful to you now that she's experienced the thrill of it and the moderately challenging (exciting?) task of hiding it from you.
The only thing she's not doing is publicly leaving you for the OM, yet. But She's still a mom and there's a son at home right now.
I think it's called cake eating. Requires lots of deceit and fairly decent acting. But we LBSers tend to want so badly to believe them, their acting really doesn't have to excel for us to believe them.
Is she humbled? God, no.
Humility comes from accountability, NOT consequences. She senses a possible temporary consequence so she's pulling out the woe is me, which is self pity, NOT remorse.
She feels sorry for herself, not for the pain of betrayal on you.
Sometimes when you are in it, you can't see the forest for the trees. Step back and ask yourself what you'd tell another person in your shoes.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
