That escalated quickly; WW's A RESUMES(hoosjim#13)

[DonH]

I agree with the others. You handled that fine. She's thinking, wow Jim is really pissed this time, I'm really going to have to make thus right. But she still was not at all thinking D or at least did not want to allow herself to think it would go that far. Then you said it and her heart dropped yet another level to, OMG I really may be headed to divorce here. She's now n full out panick. Can you see how had you gone back home it would all have lowered? I know you were not considering that but this all shows how this has to happen to her. This all need to be real to her.

Finally again DO NIT TELL THE KIDS ABOUT THE AFAIR. Let's be honest her Jim, deep down you still hope and want thus to work out. I know it and you know it. You gave all of these valid concerns but you still have hope. There is no coming back from kids knowing mom (or dad) cheated. Plus it's out of their control. Please don't tell them. Use it to scare her if you will but don't saddle them with it.