M - Before my W moved out she told me she was broken and it would take her years of intensive therapy for her to be right, something she wasn't willing to do. She also told me she knew I would love her for the rest of her life, that I was a good provider, etc. She still left. When you talk about the changes your W would need to make I understand completely.
N - The light is on and I find myself being very supportive of her throughout this D process. I don't do it as a manipulation tool to get her to return however I do it as I am being true to who I am and my character. I will not turn into some angry, hateful person because she rejected me.
J - I think the best you can hope for is that with time and distance the both of you can recognize your short comings and be willing to work together towards a better MR. That's assuming that the time and distance has not had the adverse effect and you realize that your spouse is not someone who is capable of change and you no longer desire to be with them
